Blogs are a fickle thing. Before I had the boy I loved reading blog posts about birth stories, the first few weeks of motherhood, etc. So initially I figured the first week home with my new baby would be all flowers and butterflies. I never read on any blogs, articles, or stories about how rough the first few days can be or about anyone who had a hard time with it. Maybe I just am one of the few who dealt with the baby blues.
Well I'm here to honestly say, the first week and a half of motherhood was rough.
I love my boy more than anything, and I was thrilled to finally have him here but when your hormones are out of whack, you feel totally hopeless. (Wow this sounds so depressing).
Luckily, these feelings eventually go away. As much as you think they won't and you'll feel this way forever, they really do go away.
I found that there were a few things that helped me feel at least a little peace and more like my chipper old self.
- Take a shower. Hand your baby off the the husband and take a shower, it's amazing how much it helps.
- Make yourself eat something. I had no appetite the first few days home but I made myself eat because not only did I need nourishment for breast milk but it made me feel a little better.
- Go outside. Again, hand the baby off to the husband and take a step outside for a minute. I went outside in my backyard and just cried and prayed to my Heavenly Father. I came back in feeling a little more like myself.
- Stay busy. I know they say to take it easy when you first get home from the hospital but when I just sat in bed, that's when my mind would start reeling and I would psych myself out. I noticed that if I kept busy by folding laundry or doing light house cleaning it kept my mind and body busy.
- Watch a tv show or movie that you would watch regularly before baby came. I have my few shows that I record and one day I decided to sit down while breastfeeding and watch one of my shows. It made me feel normal again.
- Talk to someone. When I was having one of my hysterical episodes I would call my mom or talk to Noah about how I was feeling and it always left me feeling calmer.
- Read uplifting material. I read some talks by LDS general authorities that really helped me understand the way I was feeling and realized I needed to trust in God more. Faith is so important and without it, we are nothing.
- Talk to God. Seriously, just pray. He knows exactly how you are feeling, just talk to Him.
- Take a nap. I found that at night I was in a lot worse shape, and it was probably because I was exhausted. So just go to sleep, you usually wake up feeling a little better.
- Last but certainly not least. Hold your baby, look into their eyes and talk to them, they are perfect and they have such sweet spirits, you can't help but smile when looking at the sweet face of a newborn.
Like I said, it was a rough first couple weeks, in fact I just started feeling more like myself yesterday. I was crying to my husband the other day and telling him I don't think I'll ever feel better. Well it's not true, it doesn't last forever and you start to feel like yourself in no time, just don't get discouraged. And remember to take it a minute at a time!
I'm so grateful for the opportunity God has given me to be a mother to this sweet baby boy. I'm eternally in debt to Him for entrusting me with this sweet baby.